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15 Ways to Increase Sexual Pleasure In and Out of the Bedroom

Sexuality
15 things you may not have thought of to increase sexual pleasure:
  1. Communicate honestly about your likes and dislikes during sex…eg. “Honey, that feels a little sensitive, but I love it when you ….”
  2. Talk about sex in a neutral environment when you are not naked, having sex or about to have sex, or are horny and want to have sex.
  3. Slow things down… it is the journey and not the destination.
  4. Be present…focus on the sensations you are giving and receiving. Pay attention to body cues. Yours and your partner’s.
  5. Include an exploration of their erogenous zones, taking time to find out what they are. We change over time so our likes and dislikes can change as well. Our sexuality is dynamic and ever-changing.
  6. Don’t be afraid to try out sex toys. There are a variety to try, including strokers and dildos, cock rings, prostate massagers, butt plugs, anal beads and many more.
  7. Experiment with edging, which the building of sexual intensity and anticipation by bringing each other just to the brink of orgasm without following through.
  8. Remember to play and laugh – humor goes a long way in the bedroom.
  9. Strengthen the PC (pubococcygeal) muscles in your pelvic floor to increase blood flow to this area and to generate more powerful orgasms.
  10. Learn to breathe. Breath allows the energy to flow through the body in such a way that it takes the intensity of the sensations in the lower body and runs it through the rest of the body. It also helps keep us relaxed, which enhances performance and the capability to experience orgasms.
  11. Use lots of lubrication, especially if engaging in anal play or if the woman is experiencing hormonal changes.
  12. Make genitals off-limits during foreplay. Especially women need much more warm-up time to get fully aroused before intercourse.
  13. Try talking dirty. Talking dirty fires up the hypothalamus region of the brain, the area of the brain that influences sexual behavior. Ease into it to see what your partner likes to hear. If it feels uncomfortable, stick to describing what your five senses are experiencing, for example: “I love how you sound when….” or “Your skin feels so soft.”
  14. Don’t create an “orgasm imperative,” believing any sex not ending in an orgasm for all participants is a complete failure. The expectation to orgasm decreases enjoyment so take the pressure off.
  15. Contact me for more in-depth techniques to heighten your sexual pleasure.

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