We can learn to bounce back from adversity when we begin to foster resilience.

How Can We Foster Resilience?

Science Proves the Body and Mind Connection

Researchers led by Jonathan Kipnis, chair of the Department of Neuroscience at the University of Virginia’s School of Medicine, made a ground-breaking discovery, something we vaguely assumed but couldn’t scientifically prove until now: there really is a direct correlation between the mind and the body.

We Gain a New Body When We Change Limiting Beliefs

Hence, when we overcome limiting emotional states of being that keep us connected to past experiences, the cells of our immune system begin upregulating new genes that regulate our body in a healthy way. That’s what they found; the cells of our body are always spying on our mind, and react according to the information they gather. So when we encounter adversity, there is a distinct difference in the Event and in the Outcome….and any good that can come from adversity can only come from what we decide to do with it. When we embrace feelings like love, joy and gratitude, we are changing our brain chemistry, just as when we embrace feelings like hate, envy, or self-judgement.

What is resilience?

Many confuse resilience with grit, with an “I can take whatever life throws at me and then some” attitude. Yet that isn’t what resilience is about. Resilience offers lightness; the ability to bounce back. It is what makes the difference between striving and thriving. It is the ability to take care of Self when facing tough times, and learning to trust in the experience and grow from it.

Ways in which we can build resilience are:

  • Allow yourself to struggle (it’s okay to not be okay)
  • Open yourself to compassion
  • Accept what you can’t change
  • Find people you resonate with
  • Identify patterns in your mind, life or relationships that don’t serve you

Undo the Effects of Negative Thinking

Some of these patterns include catastrophic thinking and negative self talk. To undo the devastating effects of negative thinking, we need three times as many positive thoughts to override the negative ones.

Bringing the Brain and Heart Into Coherence

In order to facilitate positive thinking even when we don’t feel positive, I suggest practising Heart Coherence. Heart Coherence is similar to heart meditation but instead of focusing on generating a feeling of calm, it is used to encourage communication with the heart and ultimately lead us to action. Heart Coherence was first described by Dr. Dan Winter in 1992 and was later made popular by the Heart Math Institute, Joe Dispenza, Dr. David Servain-Schreiber and others. Countless research studies have been conducted and published surrounding the subject of Heart Resonance, so for those of you who are interested, a visit to www.heartmath.org will provide more information.

STEP 1 Turn your attention inwards. 


Imagine breathing into your heart. Feel your Heart.  Slowly gear your focus on things you are grateful for: it can be a thing, a person, an animal; it can be nature.


Become aware of a sensation of expansiveness or warmth that develops in the chestthis can take a while in the beginning, as the heart is delicate and shy.  This feeling is heart coherence. Continue to draw on feelings of love and gratitude. Do this daily until it becomes easy to come into heart coherence.

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